This is something I get asked all the time, and so to reply to a comment from one of our sisters of the mistress-hood (posted under "Circumstantial Mistress") regards "How to Fall Out of Love with an MM?" - I have a simple solution to that question. To fall out of love with your MM, you need to empower yourself, and get your self-esteem back, and to help you do this, just think back on all of the lies and empty promises he has ever fed you, Think of all the soul destroying 'waiting' you have allowed yourself to endure by being his secret woman. Think of the number of times you have told him you were in pain, and how he still went home to his wife anyway, but more importantly, think on the most basic of truths here, he does not love you, or he would have changed his world to be with you. So don't belittle yourself enough to love someone who does not love you, who has lied to you (and is lying to his wife, and his family) and who you have no chance of a future with.
Hope this helps this particular mistress who wrote in with her very candid, and all too familiar, story (and by the way sister, the guy you write about sounds like a very nasty piece of work, and a manipulative bastard to boot; so the fact he is married and a cheat, should be enough to have you running for the hills?). I hope this will help empower all other mistresses reading too. I know it is a daily, uphill struggle, to get over this type of emotional scarring, but you will get there. Don't give in. Live the life you DESERVE, and don't accept to be second best any longer. And, it is ok to be alone you know.
For this sister - and any others who are currently trying to beat their addiction to the WRONG man - I do offer intensive coaching sessions, that will help you love yourself, and reclaim yourself. I call this service, "renewal coaching," as that is literally what this process is all about, renewing yourself. If you are interested to know more, then write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information. I have helped countless women, including myself, to move on from this VERY toxic environment which I understand all too well.
As always, let me know your thoughts...I love reading all of your comments.